How I went from No Confidence to Confident

I did everything you were supposed to do in order to live the American dream. Good grades – check, amazing job – check, climbing up the corporate ladder – check, big house and 6 carts full of IKEA products to fill up that house, check…check. But something was still missing – CONFIDENCE. I didn’t feel confident in who I was.


My Big AHA!



My big Aha moment was when a life coach told me I wasn’t confident and that I was buying my confidence.  I was buying things and experiences in order to get people to like me.

She helped me realize that I wasn’t stepping into my fears and doing what I really wanted. From that moment I started facing my fears and learning from my mistakes. That led to leaving my high paying corporate job and becoming a life coach and writing my first book. 

While on a speaking trip in Ecuador in 2015 I met Rafael Bejarano a shaman, world class didgeridoo player, and fellow coach. He walked this earth with a giant rubber chicken reminding everyone they are bigger than their fears and they can do anything they want if they step into their fears. He left them with a token to remind them.  A tiny rubber chicken.

My journey led me to Portland Oregon where everything came full circle.

self confidence coach rafael bejarano

In September 2015 Rafael was killed in Egypt by their government in a mistaken attack on terrorists. I chose to carry on his message and remind others of their own greatness and that they can take their fears head on too.

I ordered my first batch of tiny rubber chickens in order to start giving back and making a difference in the world in my own way.  The day the chickens arrived my confidence was tested.  As I arrived back to my house from walking my dog I was alerted that my amazon package was delivered and left on the porch.  However, when I got back to the house my package wasn’t there and it wasn’t inside the house either. 

Then it dawned on me that the man pushing his bicycle down the street with amazon packages under his arms wasn’t the UPS guy. HE STOLE MY RUBBER CHICKENS and I had to chase him down.   

If that had happened three years before my life coach told me I wasn’t confident I would have been a coward and just gave up and ordered more chickens online.   But not that day.  That day I grabbed my dog and chased the robber down.   

I confronted him and asked if he had my package. He said no. I continued to look and saw my package and called him out on it.  I opened my package and was instantly more upset because what was suppose to be 100 tiny rubber chickens for $30 was one single one-inch rubber chicken.  Double whammy.  Ripped off and then Robbed from.

I held the tiny rubber chicken up to his eyes and asked him, “What’s going on in your life that you’re stealing random packages off people’s porches?”

The moment changed from being about me to being about him and his life.  He opened up to me and said four people in his life had died that year and he was strung out on drugs, his mom was strung out, and so was his girlfriend.  They had gone homeless and turned to stealing to get by. 

I listened to him and then encouraged him to retun the rest of the packages he had stolen.  I reached into my wallet and gave him the last 6 dollars I had on me and gave him my business card.  I told him I’d be happy to help see if there’s anything I can do to help.

I got my rubber chicken back and my money from amazon.  More importantly, that was the day I got my confidence and learned that being compassionate and stepping into your fears can change two lives at once.

You’re in the right place if…

  • You feel less than confident and doubt yourself constantly
  • Worry about what others think of you and that prevents you from taking action.
  • You don’t feel good enough to do what you really want in life.
  • You feel like an imposter or a fraud.
  • You want a life to just be YOU and be confident in any situation.

It’s perfect you’re here right now because I can help.

My coaching is designed so you can be the confident person you’ve always wanted. I’ll help you see you’re not all the self-doubt and thoughts that occur. The coaching is designed to build your confidence one step at a time, so it’s natural and lasts the rest of your life.

I didn’t have the confidence I have today without help and guidance and neither should you. You don’t walk out of the door without looking in the mirror, right? Coaching is a mirror for your thoughts and actions so you can clearly see what’s holding you back.

What I teach will show you how to be naturally confident so you can have that amazing business, attract that awesome partner, or whatever it is for you that lights you up but you feel held back by fear.