GET UP!!!! MOM. You’re DRUNK AGAIN, said Tommy to his Mom laying passed out on the floor again it’s time to get you help….again…. My aunt Tina. That was my Aunt Tina and I want to share her story.

See…. For about 30 years my Aunt had been an addict. She came from a family of 10 brothers and two sisters. Most of my life I’ve known her as my alcoholic aunt.

Tina Lewis She was constantly in and out of rehab and constantly moved from apartment to apartment. The families bailed her out many, many, times over the years.

For a while, she had gone homeless and no one knew where she was. She turned to stealing from family and friends at a point just to drink and get high. It was bad. My mom had given her another chance to live with her and during that time she secretly had crack delivered to the house.

THAT WAS IT! The line was crossed. She put my mom’s safety in jeopardy and my brothers got her out of the house and into rehab and basically said she couldn’t come back.

My mom’s a people pleaser and will do anything to make others happy especially her boys. But, my brothers and I realized we needed to put our collective feet down and say NO to our mother and tell her Tina had to go and she needed professional help.

BACK TO THE STORY….

Tina was placed into a rehab facility for 14 months where she was able to become sober and start to clean up her life. The time came though when she was going to come out and she realized she had burned all of her bridges with family and friends and had NO PLACE to go.

That’s when I go a phone call. “Brad, I want Tina to come live with me again,” I told her no I don’t think that’s a good idea mom. She’s just going to relapse again and in a few months she will be back to being an alcoholic again and the last time she put your life in danger. I don’t think it’s a good idea mom. AT ALL!

My brothers and I all agreed it wasn’t a good idea and I said, “No, don’t do it.”

What I realized was I was making a choice based on FEAR and NOT in LOVE. What I realize now was I wasn’t taking a stand for my Aunt to have a better life and empowering her to be the person she could become…. But my mom did see something.

My mom said, “She’s my sister I can’t let her live on the streets again.”

My brothers and I gave in and I said, “Mom, it’s your choice but don’t come crying to us when it happens again.”

Fast forward about 2 years later. I am driving home in the rain after a leadership course in which I was asked the question “Who had I given up on in my life?”

I started crying and it hit me like a ton of bricks the power of love and what my mom had done for her sister. She stood in front of her sons, the most important people in her life AND told them NO!  She did it to care for another human being who had done everyone wrong over and over again. She took a stand for someone else’s life and I was floored.

I was balling in my car. I picked up the phone and called my mom. I shared with her what I just got and what she did and how I just realized who she was for Tina. We both cried together.

Tina’s doing incredible now and helping take care of her older sister as she gets older. She’s been sober now for 3 years and now sharing her story with other alcoholics. She even wants to do some speaking eventually to help more people. She now hands out flyers about her story in order to inspire others.

These two are known as the Golden Girls in their community. They go everywhere together and when one isn’t there people are asking where the other is. I lovingly call my mom “Rose” she’s always got a story about her 13 brothers and sisters when they were growing up. I call Tina “Blanche” because she’s always talking about Sex.

These two are known as the Golden Girls in their community. They go everywhere together and when one isn’t there people are asking where the other is. I lovingly call my mom “Rose” she’s always got a story about her 13 brothers and sisters when they were growing up. I call Tina “Blanche” because she’s always talking about Sex.

What Tina shared with me during her rehab process is she began to love herself and started taking responsibility for her life. What I learned was….When I can unconditionally love others and myself I can accomplish so much more than trying to do things by myself.

When I started doing the same I realized I could be more open with others and really share what was true for me.

I am really proud of her and my mother for standing up for her sister.  I helped Tina create a flyer she is now handing out to other everyone to share her story of courage and is even stepping into speaking in public and sharing how being an alcoholic for so long affected her and people she cared about.  Check out the flyer below for her full story.

Tina is doing amazing and because of that, I helped her create a flyer she is now handing out to other everyone to share her story of courage.  She is even stepping into public speaking to share her journey of overcoming being addicted for so long to give hope to others and their families. Check out the flyer below for her full story.  Download the full PDF here and share it with others.

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